God and Marriage
Everyone possesses a different level of understanding and opinions when it comes to marriages. But it is essential to know as a believer of Christ what the Bible say about marriage? Marriage came out from the holy and matchless wisdom of God, and that is why it is considered as a holy union. Since it was an ideal theme of heaven, God is always involved in our marriages.
God spoke about marriage early in the Scriptures in Genesis 2:23–24: “The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called “woman,” for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Scripture says, marriage makes a man and woman become “one flesh” and into a life-long union.
We always call marriage as a Holy Matrimony because of marriage itself a holy thing, where two people unknown to each other come into a covenant (not a contract) in the presence of God. God wishes that the Holy marriage, which has been started as holy needs to be sacred until the death separates them.
Matthew 19:6 in the New Testament gives a warning regarding this oneness: “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate”. The Bible proposed marriage keeps Christ as the head of the relationship between husband and wife. The oneness in marriage depicts the oneness of Christ with His church.
Marriage makes a divine relationship between husband and wife, no matter what happens; stand for your marriage because your future depends on it. God wants us to be firm in our marriage because good marriage not only enables us to get closer to our spouse; it also draws us much closer to the Lord.
Marriage creates an intimate relationship between husband and wife, and God wants us to have the same kind of intimate relationship with Him. We are the bride of Christ. Jesus will come again to meet His bride (Church) and to be with her eternally. The relationship between husband and wife is supposed to be a visible image like the unconditional bond between God and His Children.
Marriage, Created by God
Since marriage is an idea of God, Satan always wanted to ruin the blessings which God has kept through marriage. Apostle Paul while writing to Ephesians 5, teaches us a successful biblical marriage involves both the husband and the wife fulfilling specific roles and submitting themselves to each other. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior” (Ephesians 5:22–23). “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). Such self-sacrificing love can quickly solve all the bitterness in the marriage relationship and make a wife surrender herself to her husband’s leadership easily.
When a husband is committed to demonstrating love for his wife, and a wife is committed to graciously allowing her husband to lead, the marriage will work. Paul specifically tells husbands to “love” their wives and wives to “respect” their husbands (Ephesians 5:33). A lot simply has to do with the unique natures of male and female.
God wants both husbands and wives to treat their spouses with love and respect. When the Bible says that wives should respect their husbands, it assumes such respect will be based on love. When it tells husbands to love their wives, it takes for granted that a disrespectful love isn’t love at all. Scripture is clear about God’s design for marriage in the fact that men and women have different roles. Yet it never suggests that one spouse is more important than the other.
Instead, when a Christian husband and wife learn how God has wired them to complement each other in mutual submission, they reflect the love that exists between Christ and His Bride. Peter says in 3:1, “In the same way, you wives, be submissive.” Then, and this is the clincher, he writes in 3:7, “You husbands in the same way.”
Conclusion
To what does he refer when writing “you husbands in the same way?” In the same way that wives submit, you husbands submit. Specifically, in this text a husband submits to his wife’s need to be understood and honored. It gets even better. When a husband submits this way, God answers the man’s prayers (3:7). Husbands, he favors you when you submit to your wife’s need for love, understanding, and honor. Don’t let this frighten you. Instead, try this and watch God show up. You do not lose power but experience power!
In the same way, wives will not lose power when they submit to their husband’s need for respect. In fact, unconditional respect is a wife’s secret to power and influence in her marriage thus, submission is defined as respect from the wife to the husband (especially when she’s feeling unloved) and love from the husband to the wife (especially when he is feeling disrespected).
We submit to God and to our spouse in a way that is contrary to our nature but which empowers us with benevolent influence. Husband and wife, will you submit to one another out of reverence for Christ? The marriage that is based on mutual submission will experience God’s power! Just as Christ nourishes and cares for the church, so a husband naturally should nourish and care for his wife.
For fruitful wedlock, they both must be faithful, loyal, respect each other and transparent to each other and before God. Bible doesn’t allow and warns much regarding the same-sex marriage which the current world tries to hold on to it. Bible is against such kind of weddings. Genesis 1:27 says “so God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” So the Bible tells us that God blesses the marriage of a man and a woman.